The “gods” within you

Trauma is hell on earth. Trauma resolved is a gift from the gods. ― Peter A. Levine, Clinical Psychologist, Author Living decades beyond Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) does not automatically resolve the deep impact of trauma. I wish longevity alone removed the residue of trauma; that each passing day diminished patterns of self-doubt into oblivion.Continue reading “The “gods” within you”

Justice

Today, thoughts about what justice means for Survivors of Childhood Sexual Abuse (CSA) and other Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE.) There may be times when we are powerless to prevent injustice, but there must never be a time when we fail to protest. Elie Wiesel, Holocaust Survivor, author, professor, activist, Nobel Peace Prize recipient I amContinue reading “Justice”

Again

A failure is not always a mistake. It may simply be the best one can do under the circumstances. The real mistake is to stop trying. B.F. Skinner, American Psychologist Today, encouragement to continue your healing journey. As an adult survivor of Childhood Sexual Abuse at times I feel discouraged that I am not furtherContinue reading “Again”

Release

Sometimes letting things go is an act of far greater power than defending or hanging on. Eckhart Tolle Today, encouragement to let go. Surviving Childhood Sexual Abuse (CSA) is a triumph! Yet, years later I feel my jaw clench and my shoulder muscles tighten as I brace for a blow to my sense of safety.Continue reading “Release”

Persevere

Perseverance is not a long race; it is many short races one after the other. Walter Elliot, Scottish Politician Today, encouragement to continue your healing journey. I described being a survivor of Childhood Sexual Abuse to a friend as feeling like I started the hundred meter dash a quarter of a mile behind the startContinue reading “Persevere”

Learning

Learning new things is easy when there is no unlearning involved. Edgar Schein Today, recognition that we sometimes need to unlearn before we can learn. Survivors of Adverse Childhood Events (ACE) receive distorted messages of how they can expect to be treated by others. Abused and neglected children often live with toxic stress. Without aContinue reading “Learning”

Growth

Today, encouragement to grow to be your whole self. Growth is the only evidence of life. John Henry Newman, 19th century English theologian I’ve been noticing the beautiful growth of spring here in New Engalnd. Flowers blossom, tadpoles emerge from strands of eggs, and the brown of winter is replaced by glorious greenery in theContinue reading “Growth”

Solitude

Today, encouragement to distinguish healthy solitude from isolation. Solitude vivifies, isolation kills. Joseph Roux Shame. Like a weed it strangles positive thoughts and emotions. For children who experience Adverse Childhood Events (ACE), like Childhood Sexual Abuse (CSA), shame becomes the defining emotion. Shame creates a sense of isolation. The shame experienced by a child livingContinue reading “Solitude”

Creativity

The creative adult is the child who survived. Ursula LeGuin Today, encouragement to make space for creativity in your life. Surviving Adverse Childhood Events (ACE) often diverts energy away from play and expression of creativity. As children, we receive messages that help us to see our strengths and natural talents. For children living through ACEContinue reading “Creativity”

Boundaries

Today, encouragement to set healthy boundaries. No is a complete sentence. Anne Lamont I remember reading early in my healing journey that adult survivors of Childhood Sexual Abuse are more likely than others to be sexually promiscuous. The sense I made of this sobering statistic is that as abuse survivors we must learn that weContinue reading “Boundaries”