Forgiveness

Today encouragement to forgive yourself. The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong. Mahatma Gandhi Survivors of Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE) and Childhood Sexual Abuse (CSA) are often encouraged to forgive the perpatrators of their abuse, neglect and traumas endured, often with a promise that when we forgive those who harmedContinue reading “Forgiveness”

Connect

Today, encouragement to connect with yourself. Many of us walk around living at a distance from our immediate experience. This is especially true for survivors of Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE) and Childhood Sexual Abuse (CSA.) These childhood traumas often result in hyper-vigilance and shame which pull a child out of the immediacy of what theyContinue reading “Connect”

Acceptance

Today, acceptance of what we cannot change. Early in my healing journey, I attended a 12-step program for survivors of Childhood Sexual Abuse. It was a revelation to sit among other survivors. In their stories, to understand that I truly was not alone, as I previously believed. Many draw solace from the serenity prayer: “God,Continue reading “Acceptance”

Visibility

Today, an acknowledgement of you sister and brother survivors! In the 1980’s when I started to search for any publication that reflected my experiences as a survivor of Childhood Sexual Abuse, I ran into the brick wall of the unintended consequences of statistics. Since the greatest reporting of CSA at that time was male perpetratedContinue reading “Visibility”

Gratitude

Today: encouragement to recognize and express gratitude for your strength. Practicing gratitude has been connected to better psychological, physical and social well-being. For survivors of Adverse Childhood Experiences, shame and fear often overshadow gratitude. Yet, practicing gratitude can help to unburden ACE survivors of the gritty negative residue of negative childhood challenges. My simple gratitudeContinue reading “Gratitude”

We are not alone.

Today thoughts about other survivors. As a child and well into my 20s, I kept the secret of sexual abuse buried deep inside me. I believed I was alone. In this way, childhood sexual abuse (CSA) is a perfect crime. The victim takes on the shame and guilt of the abuser, and protects the secretContinue reading “We are not alone.”

Recover

Today a reminder to take time to recover from both big and small setbacks. Research has identied many of the consequences on people who survive Adverse Childhood Experiences. You can learn about how the experiences you endured in childhood may have affected your stress-level, brain development and overall health. It may help to make senseContinue reading “Recover”

Play

Today encouragement to play! As a child I was naturally trusting and curious. My imagination turned a path on our back hill into a major hiking trail. A backpack, pocket knife and canteen transformed me into an explorer. Adverse Childhood Experiences compromised my playfulness. The free spirit of play was replaced with a different existence;Continue reading “Play”

Peace

Today a reflection on inner peace. Many survivors of Adverse Childhood Experiences carry critical voices in their minds that hound them causing distress and distraction. Mindfulness practices help quiet the inner din of negative, fear-based dialogue. Peace in mind creates space to notice beauty and connect with curiosity. Mindfulness starts with noticing your breath. TheContinue reading “Peace”

Hope

Today recognition of the miraculous power of hope. Surviving Adverse Childhood Experiences is an accomplishment. It requires a belief that, despite all evidence to the contrary, you are worthy; that somewhere beyond the abuse, you may experience joy and safe, healthy relationships. Survival requires perseverance through the paralyzing shame onward toward the faintest glimmer ofContinue reading “Hope”