Patterns and Change

When patterns are broken, new worlds emerge. Tuli Kupferberg, poet, peace activist Lately I’ve been up against persistent patterns of numbness and distance. I know where they began. I understand their destructiveness. I see them and feel them. I see how they injure others. Yet, the grip of these patterns remains powerfully paralyzing. As aContinue reading “Patterns and Change”

The “gods” within you

Trauma is hell on earth. Trauma resolved is a gift from the gods. ― Peter A. Levine, Clinical Psychologist, Author Living decades beyond Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) does not automatically resolve the deep impact of trauma. I wish longevity alone removed the residue of trauma; that each passing day diminished patterns of self-doubt into oblivion.Continue reading “The “gods” within you”

Justice

Today, thoughts about what justice means for Survivors of Childhood Sexual Abuse (CSA) and other Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE.) There may be times when we are powerless to prevent injustice, but there must never be a time when we fail to protest. Elie Wiesel, Holocaust Survivor, author, professor, activist, Nobel Peace Prize recipient I amContinue reading “Justice”

Again

A failure is not always a mistake. It may simply be the best one can do under the circumstances. The real mistake is to stop trying. B.F. Skinner, American Psychologist Today, encouragement to continue your healing journey. As an adult survivor of Childhood Sexual Abuse at times I feel discouraged that I am not furtherContinue reading “Again”

Release

Sometimes letting things go is an act of far greater power than defending or hanging on. Eckhart Tolle Today, encouragement to let go. Surviving Childhood Sexual Abuse (CSA) is a triumph! Yet, years later I feel my jaw clench and my shoulder muscles tighten as I brace for a blow to my sense of safety.Continue reading “Release”

Compassion over Fear

Courage does not always roar, sometimes it’s the quiet voice at the end of the day saying, I will try again tomorrow. ~Mary Anne Radmacher Today, encouragement to move through your fear. To me, among the heinous harms caused by Childhood Sexual Abuse are the loss of trust in one’s self, and the loss ofContinue reading “Compassion over Fear”

Kindness

The smallest act of kindness is worth more than the grandest intention. Oscar Wilde Today, encouragement to slow down to notice and offer kindness. The lingering harm caused by Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE) like Childhood Sexual Abuse (CSA) at times feels overwhelming. What helps me when I sense these feelings of residual oppressive negativity isContinue reading “Kindness”

Persevere

Perseverance is not a long race; it is many short races one after the other. Walter Elliot, Scottish Politician Today, encouragement to continue your healing journey. I described being a survivor of Childhood Sexual Abuse to a friend as feeling like I started the hundred meter dash a quarter of a mile behind the startContinue reading “Persevere”